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Waiting—Apr. 21
Wants and Needs—Jan. 21, Nov. 20
Warning Signs—July 30
We Are Lovable—July 14
What If?—May 31
What We Want, Coming to Terms with—July 10
What's Good for Me?—Sept. 14
When Things Don't Work—June 28
Who Knows Best?—July 2
Withholding—June 25
Word Power—Sept. 3
Work Histories—June 22
Work Roles—Dec. 19
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You Are Lovable—Feb. 29
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The Twelve Steps Of Alcoholics Anonymous*
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
*The Twelve Steps of A.A. are taken from Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd ed., published by A.A. World Services, Inc., New York, N.Y., 5960. Reprinted with permission of A.A.
World Services, Inc.
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The Twelve Steps Of AlAnon*
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
*The Twelve Steps of AlAnon are taken from AlAnon Faces Alcoholism, 2nd ed., published by AlAnon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., New York, N.Y., 23637. The Twelve Steps of AlAnon are copyrighted by AlAnon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. They are reprinted here with the permission of AlAnon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., and A.A. World Services, Inc.
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The Language Of Letting Go Introduction
January January 1 The New Year
January 2 Healthy Limits
January 3 Nurturing Self-Care
January 4 Separating from Family Issues
January 5 Accepting Help
January 6 Relationships
January 7 Dealing with Painful Feelings
January 8 Vulnerability
January 9 Responsibility for Ourselves
January 10 Fear
January 11 Letting Go of Guilt
January 12 Finding Balance
January 13 Good Feelings
January 14 Accepting Anger
January 15 Standing Up for Ourselves
January 16 Prayer
January 17 Acting As If
January 18 Gratitude
January 19 Owning Our Power
January 20 New Beginnings
January 21 Wants and Needs
January 22 Appreciating Our Past
January 23 New Energy Coming
January 24 Clearing the Slate
January 25 Step One
January 26 Off The Hook
January 27 Needing People
January 28 Staying in the Present Moment
January 29 Going to Me
etings
January 30 Religious Freedom
January 31 Asking for What We Need
February February 1 Step Two
February 2 Trusting Our Higher Power
February 3 Rejecting Shame
February 4 Enjoying Recovery
February 5 Financial Responsibility
February 6 Stopping Victimization
February 7 Owning Our Power
February 8 Letting Go of Guilt
February 9 Letting Go in Love
February 10 Letting Go of Sadness
February 11 Divinely Led
February 12 Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery
February 13 Trusting Ourselves
February 14 Valentines's Day
February 15 Control
February 16 Detachment
February 17 Acceptance
February 19 Our Path
February 20 Setting Our Own Course
February 21 Living in the Present
February 22 Solving Problems
February 23 Strength
February 24 Recognizing Feelings
February 25 Accepting Imperfection
February 26 Twelve Step Programs
February 27 People-Pleasers
February 28 Letting Go of Denial
February 29 You Are Lovable
March March 1 Letting Go of Anger
March 2 Feelings on the Job
March 3 Accepting Ourselves
March 4 Higher Power as a Source
March 5 Be Who You Are
March 6 Peace
March 7 Fulfillment
March 8 Surrender
March 9 Taking Care of Ourselves
March 10 Living with Families
March 11 Letting Go of Confusion
March 12 Timing
March 13 Clarity and Direction
March 14 Trusting Ourselves
March 15 Removing the Victim
March 16 Positive Energy
March 17 Empowering
March 18 Safety
March 19 Staying Out of the Middle
March 20 Releasing
March 21 Considering Commitment
March 22 Letting Go of Being a Victim
March 23 Flack from Setting Boundaries
March 24 Appreciating Ourselves
March 25 Letting Go of Worry
March 26 Gifts, Not Burdens
March 27 After-Burn
March 28 Balance
March 29 Getting Needs Met
March 30 Experiment
March 31 Finances
April April 1 Going Easy
April 2 Facing Our Darker Side
April 3 Acceptance
April 4 Negotiating Conflicts
April 5 Detaching in Love
April 6 Patience
April 7 Those Old-Time Feelings
April 8 Self-Care
April 9 Giving
April 10 Using Others to Stop Our Pain
April 11 Financial Goals
April 12 Letting Go of Fear
April 13 Enjoyment
April 14 Perfectionism
April 15 Communication
April 16 Letting Things Happen
April 17 Taking Care of Ourselves
April 18 Freedom
April 19 Accepting Change
April 20 Deadlines
April 21 Waiting
April 22 Coping with Stress
April 23 Opening Ourselves to Love
April 24 Lessons on the Job
April 25 Finding Our Own Truth
April 26 Resisting Negativity
April 27 Letting Go of the Need to Control
April 28 Anger at Family Members
April 29 Initiating Relationships
April 30 Balance
May May 1 Recovery Prayer
May 2 Our Higher Power
May 3 Freedom from Self-Seeking
May 4 Freedom from Compulsive Disorders
May 5 Control
May 6 Feeling Good
May 7 Letting Go of Fear
May 8 Giving Ourselves What We Deserve
May 9 Learning New Behaviors
May 10 Enjoying the Good Days
May 11 Perfection
May 12 Intimacy
May 13 Property Lines
May 14 Honesty
May 15 Take Risks
May 16 Self-Love
May 17 Boundaries
May 18 Living Our Lives
May 19 Solving Problems
May 20 Sadness
May 21 Getting Needs Met
May 22 Times of Reprogramming
May 23 Enjoyment
May 24 Letting the Cycles Flow
May 25 Loving Ourselves Unconditionally
May 26 Gossip
May 27 Recognizing Choices
May 28 Letting Go of Self-Doubt
May 29 Powerlessness and Unmanageability
May 30 Commitment
May 31 What If?
June June 1 Directness
June 2 Owning Our Power
June 3 Charity
June 4 Trusting God
June 5
June 6 The Gift of Readiness
June 7 Into Orbit
June 8 Fun
June 9 Panic
June 10 Responsibility
June 11 Moving Forward
June 12 Spontaneity and Fun
June 13 Hanging on to Old Relationships
June 14 Letting Go of Timing
June 15 Competition Between Martyrs
June 16 Feeling Good
June 17 Surrender
June 18 Being Vulnerable
June 19 Making Life Easier
June 20 Relationship Martyrs
June 21 The Good Feelings
June 22 Work Histories
June 23 Letting Go of Old Beliefs
June 24 Detachment
June 25 Withholding
June 26 Surviving Slumps
June 27 Achieving Harmony
June 28 When Things Don't Work
June 29 God's Will
June 30 Accepting Change
July July 1 Receiving
July 2 Who Knows Best?
July 3 Directness
July 4 Celebrate
July 5 Survivor Guilt
July 6 Step Seven
July 7 Getting It All Out
July 8 Going with the Flow
July 9 Overspending and Underspending
July 10 Ending Relationships
July 11
July 12 Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment
July 13 God as We Understand God
July 14 We Are Lovable
July 15 Family Buttons
July 16 Insisting on the Best
July 17 Love, in Words and Actions
July 18 Time to Get Angry
July 19 Proving It to Ourselves
July 21 Being Is Enough
July 22 Learning to Trust Again
July 23 Making It Happen
July 24 Denial
July 25 Keep at It
July 26 Owning Our Power
July 27 Letting Go
July 28 Fear
July 29 Have Some Fun
July 30 Accepting Powerlessness
July 31 Letting Go of What We Want
August August 1 Gratitude
August 2 In-Between
August 3 Owning Our Power in Relationships
August 4 Vulnerability
August 5 Attitudes Toward Money
August 6 Solving Problems
August 7 Saying No
August 8 Saying Yes
August 9 Asking for What We Need
August 10 Letting Go of Perfection
August 11 Healing
August 12 Directness
August 13 Friends
August 14 Owning Our Power
August 15 Leaving Room for Feelings
August 16 Rescuing Ourselves
Augus
t 17 Healing Thoughts
August 18 Valuing this Moment
August 19 Letting Go of Shame
August 20 Honesty in Relationships
August 21 Detaching in Relationships
August 22 Responsibility for Family Members
August 23 Self-Care
August 24 Step Eight
August 25 Willing to Make Amends
August 26 Making Amends
August 27 Procrastination
August 28 Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job
August 29 Owning Our Energy
August 30 Accepting Our Best
August 31 Denial
September September 1 Patience
September 2 Detaching with Love with Children
September 3 Word Power
September 4 Finding Direction
September 5 Step Ten
September 6 The Good in Step Ten
September 7 Powerless over Others
September 8
September 9 Perspective
September 10 Self-Approval
September 11 Conflict and Detachment
September 12 Healing
September 13 Times of Reprogramming
September 14 What's Good for Me?
September 15 Getting Through Hard Times
September 16 Revenge
September 17 New Relationship Behaviors
September 18 Letting the Good Stuff Happen
September 19 Apologies
September 20 Spontaneity
September 21 Letting Go of Urgency
September 22 Trusting Ourselves
September 23 Tolerance
September 24 Allowing Ourselves to be Needy
September 25 Peace with the Past
September 26 Feeling Protected
September 27 Temporary Setbacks
September 28 Prayer
September 29 The Importance of Money
September 30 Not a Victim
October October 1 Be Who You Are
October 2 Coping with Families
October 3 Getting Through the Discomfort
October 4 Faith and Money
October 5 Knowledge
October 6 Taking Care of Ourselves
October 7 Letting Go of Naiveté
October 8 Learning to Wait
October 9 Self-Disclosure
October 10 Payoffs from Destructive Relationships
October 11 Recovery
October 12 Being Gentle with Ourselves During Times of Grief
October 13 Substance over Form
October 14 Controlling Versus Trust
October 15 Letting Go of Chaos
October 16 Being Honest with Ourselves
October 17 Feelings and Surrender
October 18 Throwing Out the Rule Book