Learn Easy Ways To Control Anger
Majid Mireskandai
TABLE OF CONTENTS
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1.Introduction3
2. Facts About Anger4
3.How to Manage Anger7
4. Facts About Stress 9
5.Current Lifestyle & Stress10
6. Tips to Manage Stress11
7.Conclusion14
Introduction
Anger is an emotion that may range from mild irritation to fury or aggression. Anger is not a negative emotion; it is just a misconception that is thought to be so. Anger is imperative and should be expressed in a healthy way.
There are numerous people having problems in controlling anger. If you are one of them then you can try certain methods like deep breathing, workouts, focus shifting etc. By practicing some of these methods, you will not only gain control over your anger; but will also be able to manage your emotions in a better way.
Most of the time, stress is another emotional issue that lands you into trouble. It is a compilation of several emotions that can make you feel helpless. Just like anger, stress also considered to be a negative emotion. However, stress is credited for a healthy growth of our personal traits to a certain level.
Stress is a part of the modern day lifestyle. However when it starts controlling your life then you must take necessary steps to reduce it. There are several ways that can help you in reducing stress like meditation, workouts, elimination of substances like alcohol and cigarettes etc. By trying these methods you will be able to manage and deal with stress in a better way.
With some small changes and addition to your lifestyle you will be able to bring a big difference in the overall quality of your life.
Facts About Anger
Just like happiness and sadness, anger is also an emotion. It is characterized by animosity towards something or someone. Everyone feels angry at some point in their lifetime, for some certain external and uncontrollable reasons. Psychological turmoil felt inside is often expressed by a state of aggression. Anger is a healthy emotion, provided you express it in a constructive way. The problem starts when the outcome of anger implies indulging in activities that can harm you or others. That’s an alarming situation, and the patient needs to get a reality check and seek help.
Symptoms of such a psychological disorder have got few characteristic expressions. At times, it can be a feeling of a mild irritation that goes off within a few minutes. However, at times it may last for days; even months and some people tend to nurture anger within themselves for years. Such long term anger often gets translated to acute aggression. In these particular types of anger, such an aggression ends up to an emotional outburst. Thus, to avoid such a situation you must try to express your anger or try to let go of the incident.
The intensity of anger differs and so does the reaction. The capability to control and express anger is subject to individual psychological state of mind, and varies from case to case. Needless to say that Anger Management, in this regard could be defined as a skill that one inherits or learns over time.
Certain events and situations tend to trigger anger; it can be the feeling of being ignored or a grudge that you may have been holding against someone. There are several events that can make you angry, but the way you deal with it is what matters.
The Down Side Of Anger
You can blame anger as the root cause behind a number of psychological problems. Besides, it can affect your health and relationship with loved ones. Anger is an emotion and any kind of emotional issue can create psychological problems in the long run. Some of the problems that are close associated with anger are:
Anxiety- Anxiety is a kind of fear that one experiences, it’s a feeling that may make you feel helpless. The feeling of helplessness triggers anger in order to suppress the fear. At time this helpless feeling is triggered because of your inability to control your anger. In the long run anxiety can affect your self esteem.
Depression- Anger is triggered from a sense of hurt. When you hold on to the grudge for a long time it will create a sense of frustration which will indeed make you depresses. That’s why it is said that “Depression is anger turned inwards”.
High blood pressure- When you feel angry for a long time it affects your cardiovascular system in a negative way, which in turn increases your heart rate and blood pressure.
Apart from these, you may experience headache, Insomnia, skin problems and stroke due to anger. It may not only harm you but it may harm all the others, who will be facing you during such a tough time. Anger can lead to violent behavior and in the heat of the moment; you may lose control over yourself and hit someone.
Domestic violence is a much talked about subject and most of the times the real reason is anger. Every human being is different and something that affects you may not affect the other. Thus something that you said or did may tick off your loved ones. It happens when the ager is build up and turns into aggression. This aggression leads into violent behavior. The abuse may be verbal or physical but if it happens repeatedly over time then it’s time to check and correct it.
Anger Amongst Teens
Anger affects the young and old; however it is most common amongst teenagers, as they go through certain physical changes and it takes time for them to come in terms with themselves. That’s why most teenagers get angry at the slightest of events. However, it is important to know that this is the age where they need the most guidance as it will lay the base of who they become in future. Thus they must be handled very carefully.
How To Manage Anger
Before you try out the methods to manage anger, you need to know the real reason behind it. The first thing to do is to make a note of things that triggers it. Once you get to know the reason, it will become easier to manage.
Basically there are two reasons for being angry. One is the anger that you have built up within yourself and the other is the one that you hold on against others. The ways to manage them are different, but the methods are more or less similar in terms of applicability.
Here are a few tips that can help you manage anger in a better way:
Take a few deep breath- Deep breaths really help in controlling anger. As soon as you think you may lose control over yourself, take a deep breath- so deep that you can feel the air within you. Then you can hold it for a second or two and finally release it through your mouth. Deep breaths help get more oxygen to your brain, which can indeed help you to calm down.
Workouts- Physical activities not only help you to build a better body, but it can make you emotionally strong as well. Workouts like running, morning walks, pushups etc stimulates various brain chemicals that can make you feel more relaxed and happy.
Take a break- At times the best solution to a problem is walking off. If a certain situation is bugging you; then it’s best to get away from that situation and take a few deep breaths and get some fresh air.
Shifting focus- It may sound difficult, but once you learn to do it correctly most of your problems will be solved. All you need to do is think about something else as soon as you realize you are getting angry.
Humor and Laughter- It is said that when you fake an emotion for a long time you start to feel it for real. Here, you can fake happiness or laughter and help yourself get away from anger. You can try to think of something funny about the whole situation. This will help you feel better.
Gratitude- We must be thankful for what we have, the things may be small but it may matter to you in a big way. You can try to list out the things that you are thankful for. It’s best to keep that list with you. When you feel angry or upset, you can check out that list and see what matters to you the most.
Forgiveness- It may sound hard but at times forgivene
ss is the only way by which you can find peace. If you hold grudge for too long it will only put you into depression, so it’s best to let the feeling go and forgive the person who did wrong to you.
All these techniques will bring a positive change in your life. However, if you think you are not finding peace within yourself even after trying all the methods to control anger then, it’s best to seek professional help. Valley Anger Management is one such organization that can help you with all your anger related issues.
Facts About Stress
Stress is a complex mixture of various emotions. It is a negative feeling that may make you feel insecure, threatened or upset. It is generally the body’s way of telling that you are unable to cope with the situation.
Stress can be internal and external. Internal stress occurs when you see the situation as troublesome. At times you may be the only person seeing the negative perspective which may stress you out even more. Thus it’s important to see the brighter side of things. As for external stress, it is caused by sources other than you yourself. Here are some of the common reasons for stress:
Major life altering changes
Financial problem
Health problem
Relationship problem
Family issues
Stress may not always be negative; at times something very exciting and positive can make you feel stressed. It is actually the change the unpredictability of things that can get you stressed. However, at times stress can be a positive thing as it may help you stay motivated and may enhance your performance.
If taken in a good spirit life can be enhanced but negativity does affect everyone. Similarly, too much stress can be bad for you physical, mental and emotional health. It can cause chronic health problems like high blood pressure, immune deficiency, heart disease, concentration problems and ultimately it can lead to depression.
No matter what you go through in life, it is important to know your limits. Similarly it is important to know how much can you take and when to seek help. The ability to manage stress is different for different people. Some of you may be able to able to adapt to any change but others may not be able to do so.
Current Lifestyle & Stress
