4. Jean Twenge, Gabrielle Martin, and W. Keith Campbell, “Decreases in Psychological Well-Being among American Adolescents after 2012 and Links to Screen Time During the Rise of Smartphone Technology,” Emotion 18, no. 6 (September 2018): 765–780, accessed at APA PsycNet, https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Femo0000403.
5. Anya Kamanetz, “The Scientific Debate Over Teens, Screens and Mental Health,” Life Kit podcast, NPR.org, August 27, 2019, https://www.npr.org/2019/08/27/754362629/the-scientific-debate-over-teens-screens-and-mental-health.
6. Elizabeth Hoge, David Bickham, and Joanne Cantor, “Digital Media, Anxiety, and Depression in Children,” Pediatrics 140, no. Supplement 2 (November 2017), https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/140/Supplement_2/S76.
7. NIH/National Institute of Mental Health, “Infant Temperament Predicts Personality More than 20 Years Later,” ScienceDaily, April 20, 2020, www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/04/200420201513.htm.
8. Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and Jillellyn Riley, “How Puberty Kills Girls’ Confidence,” Atlantic, September 20, 2018, https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/puberty-girls-confidence/563804/.
9. Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff, Raising Girls (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2007), 75–76.
10. Sissy Goff, Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World (Minneapolis: Bethany House, 2019), 31.
Chapter 3: How Will This Help?
1. David A. Clark and Aaron T. Beck, Anxiety and Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution (New York: The Guilford Press, 2012), 41, 51.
2. Dan B. Allender, The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life (Colorado Springs: WaterBrook, 1999), 189.
3. Robert Frost, “The Road Not Taken” in Complete Poems of Robert Frost (New York: Holt, Rinehart, and Winston, 1949), 131.
4. Bridgett Flynn Walker, Anxiety Relief for Kids: On-the-Spot Strategies to Help Your Child Overcome Worry, Panic & Avoidance (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2017), 20.
Chapter 4: Help for Your Body
1. Catherine Pittman, “Rewire the Anxious Brain: Using Neuroscience to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry,” March 13, 2017, a PESI digital seminar, https://catalog.pesi.com/item/19659/?_ga=2.223424467.918260906.1591987936-1079570723.1539110393.
2. Robert M. Sapolsky, “How to Relieve Stress,” Greater Good, University of California, Berkeley, March 22, 2012, https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_relieve_stress.
3. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child (New York: Bantam Books, 2018), 17.
4. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives (New York: Viking, 2018), 23.
5. Arlin Cuncic, “Amygdala Hijack and the Fight or Flight Response,” Verywell Mind, accessed August 12, 2020, https://www.verywellmind.com/what-happens-during-an-amygdala-hijack-4165944.
6. Pittman, “Rewire the Anxious Brain.”
7. Philippians 4:8 NKJV.
8. Sue McGreevey, “Eight Weeks to a Better Brain,” Harvard Gazette, January 21, 2011, https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2011/01/eight-weeks-to-a-better-brain/.
9. James Lake, “How Exercise Reduces Anxiety,” Psychology Today, October 16, 2018, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/integrative-mental-health-care/201810/how-exercise-reduces-anxiety.
10. “Sleep Disorders,” Anxiety and Depression Association of America, accessed July 15, 2020, https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/related-illnesses/sleep-disorders.
11. Jodi A. Mindell and Judith A. Owens, A Clinical Guide to Pediatric Sleep: Diagnosis and Management of Sleep Problems (Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2003), 36.
12. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child (New York: Bantam Books, 2018), 62.
13. Dan Siegel, quoted by Fiona MacDonald, “Here’s What Happens to Your Body When You Check Your Smartphone Before Bed,” Science Alert, July 29, 2015, https://www.sciencealert.com/watch-here-s-what-happens-to-your-body-when-you-check-your-smartphone-before-bed.
14. David Rock, “Announcing the Healthy Mind Platter,” Psychology Today, June 2, 2011, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-brain-work/201106/announcing-the-healthy-mind-platter.
15. Sissy Goff, Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World (Minneapolis: Bethany House, 2019), 101–103.
Chapter 5: Help for Your Mind
1. Jena E. Pincott, “Wicked Thoughts,” Psychology Today, September 1, 2015, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201509/wicked-thoughts.
2. Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and Jillellyn Riley, “How Puberty Kills Girls’ Confidence,” Atlantic, September 20, 2018, https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/puberty-girls-confidence/563804/.
3. Rachel Simmons, “Ready to Stop Overthinking? Try This Simple, 4-Step Process,” accessed August 6, 2020, https://www.rachelsimmons.com/stop-overthinking/.
4. Louisa C. Michl et al., “Rumination as a Mechanism Linking Stressful Life Events to Symptoms of Depression and Anxiety: Longitudinal Evidence in Early Adolescents and Adults,” Journal of Abnormal Psychology 122, no. 2 (May 2013): 339–352, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4116082/.
5. “Someone to Complain with Isn’t Necessarily a Good Thing, Especially for Teenage Girls,” American Psychological Association, accessed August 6, 2020, https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2007/07/co-rumination.
6. Cathy Creswell, Monika Parkinson, Kerstin Thirlwall, and Lucy Willetts, Parent-Led CBT for Child Anxiety: Helping Parents Help Their Kids (New York: The Guilford Press, 2017), 42.
7. Catherine Pittman, “Rewire the Anxious Brain: Using Neuroscience to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry,” March 13, 2017, a PESI digital seminar, https://catalog.pesi.com/item/19659/?_ga=2.223424467.918260906.1591987936-1079570723.1539110393.
Chapter 6: Help for Your Heart
1. Dan B. Allender, The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life (Colorado Springs: WaterBrook, 1999), 189.
2. Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 2013), 16.
3. Neel Burton, “What Are Basic Emotions?” Psychology Today, January 7, 2016, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201601/what-are-basic-emotions.
4. “All Human Behaviour Can Be Reduced to ‘Four Basic Emotions,’” BBC News, February 3, 2014, https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-26019586.
5. Inside Out, directed by Pete Docter and Ronnie del Carmen, produced by Jonas Rivera (Emeryville, CA: Pixar Animation Studios, 2015), DVD.
6. University of California–Los Angeles, “Putting Feelings into Words Produces Therapeutic Effects in the Brain,” ScienceDaily, June 22, 2007, https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/06/070622090727.htm.
7. Catherine Pittman, “Rewire the Anxious Brain: Using Neuroscience to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry,” March 13, 2017, a PESI digital seminar, https://catalog.pesi.com/item/19659/?_ga=2.223424467.918260906.1591987936-1079570723.1539110393.
8. Wilson and Lyons, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents, 102.
Chapter 7: Trouble
1. Sissy Goff, Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World (Minneapolis: Bethany House, 2019), 172–173.
2. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child (New York: Bantam Books, 2018), 120.
3. Siegel and Bryson, The Yes Brain, 82.
4. Frederick Buechner, Beyond Words: Daily Readings in the ABC’s of Faith (New York: HarperCollins, 2004), 139.
Chapter 8: Take Heart
1. Ryan M. Niem
iec, “Women are Higher Than Men on These 4 Strengths,” Psychology Today, April 24, 2018, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-matters-most/201804/women-are-higher-men-these-4-strengths.
2. Juliana Menasce Horowitz, Ruth Igielnik, and Kim Parker, “Views on Leadership Traits and Competencies and How They Intersect with Gender,” Women and Leadership 2018, Pew Research Center, September 20, 2018, https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2018/09/20/2-views-on-leadership-traits-and-competencies-and-how-they-intersect-with-gender/.
3. Amber C. Haines, “What It Means to Take Heart, Part 2,” (in)courage, accessed August 6, 2020, https://www.incourage.me/2013/08/what-it-means-to-take-heart-part-2.html.
Chapter 9: He Has Overcome
1. “It’s You I Like,” by Fred Rogers, track 8 on You Are Special, Omnivore Recordings, 2020, compact disc.
2. The Chronicles of Narnia: Prince Caspian, directed by Andrew Adamson (Burbank, CA: Walt Disney Home Entertainment, 2008), DVD.
About the Author
Sissy Goff, MEd, LPC-MHSP, is the director of child and adolescent counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville, Tennessee, where she works alongside her counseling assistant/pet therapist, Lucy the Havanese. Since 1993, Sissy has been helping girls and their parents find confidence in who they are and hope in who God is making them to be, both as individuals and families. She is the author of several books, including the bestselling Raising Worry-Free Girls, and a sought-after speaker for parenting events.
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Table of Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Contents
To the Parent Who Bought This Book
Introduction
Rules for Reading
Section One: Understanding 1. Defining the Worry Words
2. Why Me?
3. How Will This Help?
Section Two: Help 4. Help for Your Body
5. Help for Your Mind
6. Help for Your Heart
Section Three: Hope 7. Trouble
8. Take Heart
9. He Has Overcome
Notes
About the Author
The Feelings Chart
Back Ad
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