“I loved Will Smith’s education of Kevin James’” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSpJQlBJCzA - Hitch kissing scene
“Stop thinking about how to have her” As told to the author by the Welcomed Consensus in a workshop.
“Lewis, Amini, and Lannon, A General Theory of Love, Vintage Books, New York 2000. page 53.
“My third new practice was the asking specific questions” Taught to the author by the Welcomed Consensus in a workshop.
“Move at the speed of sensation” attributed to Nicole Daedone as told to the author.
“Men are dumb, women are angry” was originated by the author.
“Women also tend to like menu options” was first heard by the author at a More workshop. It is attributed to Victor Baranco.
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Learned from motivational speaker Anthony Robbins https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/240441
Read more about the experience and the “cheating” wife on my blog - https://robertkandell.com/2018/05/14/when-your-significant-other-wants-a-bf/, This story was written with their permission.
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Dave McDermott’s (www.empoweredman.com.au) post can be found at
https://www.facebook.com/dave.mcdermott.750/posts/969183349911311
Carse, James, Finite and Infinite Games, Free Press, 1986.
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“Can’t go from bad to better” is attributed to Victor Baranco and was taught to the author at a More workshop.
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“I learned an important viewpoint from my friend and colleague Eva Clay” as told to the author by Eva. Check out her work at www.evaclay.com or listen to her on Tuff Love.
“Be nice” is attributed to Victor Baranco.
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Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
1
MY WAKE-UP CALL
2
WHAT IT MEANS TO LIVE UNHIDDEN
3
How this Book is Written
CONFRONT
4
How to spend $100,000 to avoid intimacy
5
It’s a Tough Time to be a Man
6
The Society of Disapproval
7
The Influence of Scarcity
8
Your Sexual Shame
INVESTIGATE
9
Emotional Intelligence
10
Your Masculine/Feminine Ratio
11
12
The Impact of Porn
YOUR PRACTICE
13
Elements of Achieving Excellence
14
Learn to Communicate
15
Build Your Self-Esteem
16
Paying Quality Attention to a Woman
17
Understanding Dynamic Relationships
18
Integrity
INTEGRATION
19
Your Expansion
20
Exercises for Living unHIDDEN
21
Your Next Steps
FOR THOSE CONFUSED BY MEN
Concept 01
We’ve created this mess together
Concept 02
Concept 03
The power of your approval
Concept 04
Interacting with his shame
Concept 05
Dealing with his frustration
Concept 06
His scarcity around sex
Final Word
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
FURTHER SUPPORT
A
Your New Framework for Living unHIDDEN
B
What Lies below a Man’s Privilege: Fear and Desire
C
Recommended Reading List
D
Notes and References
E
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