Moab Is My Washpot

  Praise for Moab Is My Washpot

  “Fry is a master of provocative tangents and he remembers with a cheeky wit … Delicious.”

  —The New Yorker

  “An engagingly rueful memoir … [Fry’s voice] is comic, by turns insolent and witty, ribald and pugnacious … Enormously entertaining.”

  —Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times

  “Stephen Fry is one of the great originals … This autobiography of his first twenty years is a pleasure to read, mixing the outrageous acts with sensible opinions in bewildering confusion … [T]hat so much outward charm, self-awareness and intellect should exist alongside behavior that threatened to ruin the lives of the innocent victims, noble parents and Fry himself, gives the book a tragic grandeur that lifts it to classic status.”

  —Financial Times

  “Fry has a knack for depicting childhood’s unhappiness … [Like many] adolescents—he is fiercely loyal to his misery, denouncing any future happiness as a betrayal … Fry’s voice grows stronger as his story builds.”

  —Randy Cohen, The New York Times Book Review

  “Rhapsodic, intoxicated and very touching.”

  —Mail on Sunday

  “[An] engaging, discursive book … Reading Moab Is My Washpot is like joining the author for a long lunch and several bottles of wine. He may start with an anecdote about public school, but soon he wanders off into his thoughts on corporal punishment and The Exorcist.”

  —The Advocate

  “[A] poignant, disarmingly witty, and felicitous account of an extravagantly misspent youth [with] not the slightest trace of self-pity or blame-tossing … The actor’s generosity of spirit infuses every chapter.”

  —National Review

  “Fry, well known for his television roles in the British comedies Jeeves and Wooster and Blackadder, continues to entertain in this fresh and hilarious boyhood memoir … His hindsight provides witty entertainment in this gay coming-of-age story that will delight readers.”

  —Booklist

  “The engaging Mr. Fry admits to lies, thievery, homosexuality, excessive cleverness, and other peccadilloes in this boarding-school adventure … An author in the long and honorable tradition of English Eccentrics, Theatrical Division, presents his coming-of-age story. With all the wit and Pythonesque antics, his book will entertain the Masterpiece Theatre crowd and others as well.”

  —Kirkus Reviews

  “Witty, intelligent and honest … A pleasure to read.”

  —Publishers Weekly

  Also by Stephen Fry

  The Liar

  Hippopotamus

  Making History

  First published in Great Britain by Hutchinson,

  a division of Random House, Inc.;

  published by arrangement with Random House, Inc., New York

  Copyright © 1997 by Stephen Fry

  All rights reserved.

  Published by

  Soho Press, Inc.

  853 Broadway

  New York, NY 10003

  Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

  Fry, Stephen 1957—

  Moab is my washpot: an autobiography / Stephen Fry.

  ISBN 978-1-61695-472-7

  eISBN 978-1-61695-145-0

  1. Fry, Stephen, 1957—Childhood and youth.

  2. Novelists, English—20th century—Biography. 3. Comedians—

  Great Britain—Biography. 4. Actors—Great Britain—Biography.

  I. Title.

  PR6056.R88Z46 2014

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  [B] 2014030140

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  For You

  The book of D., Verse 10, Chapter 11

  To live is to war with trolls in heart and soul. To write is to sit in judgement on oneself.

  —Henrik Ibsen

  The interests of a writer and the interests of his readers are never the same and if, on occasion, they happen to coincide, this is a lucky accident.

  —W. H. Auden

  Contents

  Cover

  Other Books by This Author

  Title Page

  Copyright

  Dedication

  Epigraph

  Joining In

  Falling In

  Breaking Out

  Catching Up

  Afterword

  Acknowledgments

  About the Author

  Moab Is My Washpot

  “Moab is my washpot;

  over Edorn will I cast out my shoe.”

  JOINING IN

  “Look, Marguerite … England!”

  Closing lines of The Scarlet Pimpernel, 1934

  I

  For some reason I recall it as just me and Bunce. No one else in the compartment at all. Just me, eight years and a month old, and this inexpressibly small dab of misery who told me in one hot, husky breath that his name was Samuelanthonyfarlowebunce.

  I remember why we were alone now. My mother had dropped us off early at Paddington Station. My second term. The train to Stroud had a whole carriage reserved for us. Usually by the time my mother, brother and I had arrived on the platform there would have been a great bobbing of boaters dipping careless farewells into a sea of entirely unacceptable maternal hats.

  Amongst the first to arrive this time, my brother had found a compartment where an older boy already sat amongst his opened tuck box, ready to show off his pencil cases and conker skewers while I had moved respectfully forward to leave them to it. I was still only a term old after all. Besides, I wasn’t entirely sure what a conker skewer might be.

  The next compartment contained what appeared to be a tiny trembling woodland creature.

  My brother and I had leaned from our respective windows to send the mother cheerfully on her way. We tended to be cruelly kind at these moments, taking as careless and casual a leave of her as possible and making a great show of how little it mattered that we were leaving home for such great stretches of time. Some part of us must have known inside that it was harder for her than it was for us. She would be returning to a baby and a husband who worked so hard that she hardly saw him and to all the nightmares of uncertainty, doubt and guilt which plague a parent, while we would be amongst our own. I think it was a tacitly agreed strategy to arrive early so that all this could be got over with without too many others milling around. The loudness and hattedness of Other Parents were not conducive to the particular Fry tokens of love: tiny exertions of pressure on the hands and tight little nods of the head that stood for affection and deep, unspoken understanding. A slightly forced smile and bitten underlip aside, Mummy always left the platform outwardly resolute, which was all that mattered.

  All that taken care of, I slid down in my seat and examined the damp, shivering thing opposite. He had chosen a window seat with its back to the engine as if perhaps he wanted to be facing homewards and not towards the ghastly unknown destination.

  “You must be a new boy,” I said.

  A brave nod and a great spreading of scarlet in downy, hamstery cheeks.

  “My name’s Fry,” I added. “That’s my bro talking next door.”

  A sudden starburst of panic in the fluffy little chick’s brown eyes, as if terrified that I was going to invite my bro in. He probably had no idea what a bro was.

  The previous term I hadn’t known either.

  “Roger, Roger!” I had cried, running up to my brother in morning break. “Have you had a letter from—”

  “You call me bro here. Bro. Understood?”

  I explained everything to the broken little creature in front of me. “A bro is a brother, that’s all. He’s Fry, R. M. And I’m Fry, S. J. See?”

  The hamster-chick-squirrel-downy-woodland thing nodded to show that it saw. It swallowed a
couple of times as if trying to find the right amount of air to allow it to speak without sobbing.

  “I was a new boy last term,” I said, a huge and perfectly inexplicable surge of satisfaction filling me all the way from gartered woollen socks to blue-banded boater. “It really isn’t so bad, you know. Though I expect you feel a bit scared and a bit homesick.”

  It didn’t quite dare look at me but nodded again and gazed miserably down at shiny black Cambridge shoes which seemed to me to be as small as a baby’s booties.

  “Everybody cries. You mustn’t feel bad about it.”

  It was at this point that it announced itself to be Samuelanthonyfarlowebunce, and to its friends Sam, but never Sammy.

  “I shall have to call you Bunce,” I told him. “And you will call me Fry. You’ll call me Fry S. J. if my bro is about, so there won’t be any mix up. Not Fry Minor or Fry the Younger, I don’t like that. Here, I’ve got a spare hankie. Why don’t you blow your nose? There’ll be others along in a minute.”

  “Others?” He looked up from emptying himself into my hankie like a baby deer hearing a twig snap by a water pool and cast his eyes about him in panic.

  “Just other train boys. There are usually about twenty of us. You see that piece of paper stuck to the window? ‘Reserved for Stouts Hill School’ it says. We’ve got this whole carriage to ourselves. Four compartments.”

  “What happens when we get … when we get there?”

  “What do you mean?”

  “When we get to the station.”

  “Oh, there’ll be a bus to meet us. Don’t worry, I’ll make sure you aren’t lost. How old are you?”

  “I’m seven and a half.”

  He looked much younger. Nappy age, he looked.

  “Don’t worry,” I said again. “I’ll look after you. Everything will be fine.”

  I’ll look after you.

  The pleasure of saying those words, the warm wet sea of pleasure. Quite extraordinary. A little pet all to myself.

  “We’ll be friends,” I said. “It won’t be nearly as bad as you expect. You’ll see.”

  Kindly paternal thoughts hummed in my mind as I tried to imagine every worry that might be churning him up. All I had to do was remember my own dreads of the term before.

  “Everyone’s very nice really. Matron unpacks for you, but you’ve got to take your games clothes down to the bag room yourself, so you’ll have to know your school number so as you can find the right peg. My number’s one-o-four, which is the highest number in the school’s history, but twelve boys left last term and there are only eight or nine new boys, so there probably won’t ever be a one-o-five. I’m an Otter, someone’ll probably tell you what House you’re in. You should watch out for Hampton, he gives Chinese burns and dead legs. If Mr. Kemp is on duty he gives bacon slicers. It’s soccer this term, my bro says. I hate soccer but it’s conkers as well which is supposed to be really good fun. My bro says everyone goes crazy at conker time. Conkers bonkers, my bro says.”

  Bunce closed up the snotty mess in the middle of my hankie and tried to smile.

  “In two weeks’ time,” I said, remembering something my mother had told me, “you’ll be bouncing about like a terrier and you won’t even be able to remember being a bit nervous on the train.”

  I looked out of the window and saw some boaters and female hats approaching.

  “Though in your case,” I added, “you’ll be buncing about …”

  A real smile and the sound of a small giggle.

  “Here we go,” I said. “I can hear some boys coming. Tell you what, here’s my Ranger. Why don’t you be reading it when they come in, so you’ll look nice and busy.”

  He took it gratefully.

  “You’re so kind,” he said. “I’ve never met anyone as kind as you.”

  “Nonsense,” I replied, glowing like a hot coal.

  I heard the grand sounds of approaching seniors.

  “Okay then, Mum,” someone said.

  “Don’t say ‘okay,’ darling. And you will write this time, won’t you?”

  “Okay, Mum.”

  My bro and I never called our parents Mum and Dad. It was always Mummy and Daddy until years later when Mother and Father were officially sanctioned. Towards adulthood we allowed ourselves to use, with self-conscious mock-Pooterism, Ma and Pa.

  Last term, I had put my hand up in an art lesson and said, “Mummy, can I have another piece of charcoal?” The form had howled with laughter.

  There again, during the first weeks of summer holidays I often called my mother “Sir” or “Matron.”

  Bunce buried himself in the Trigan Empire, but I knew that he was listening to the sounds too and I could tell that the confidence and loudness of the other boys’ voices terrified him. He clutched the sides of the comic so hard that little rips appeared on the outer pages.

  On the way to Paddington after lunch I had felt more dread, infinitely more terror and despair at the prospect of school than I had the term before. During the long summer holiday Roger had told me to expect this. Homesickness was much worse the second and third terms than it was the first. Bunce had come as a godsend therefore, something to take my mind off my own fears.

  The door to our carriage slid open with a loud bang.

  “Oh God, it’s Fry’s Turkish Delight. And what the hell are you doing by the window?”

  “Hello, Mason,” I said.

  “Come on, shove over.”

  Bunce started to rise like a courteous old commuter offering his seat to a heavily-packaged woman. “Would you like …?” he began huskily.

  “No, I want Fry’s seat, if he hasn’t stunk it out yet.”

  Well there it was. I felt my face flush scarlet as I got up mumbling something inaudible, and removed myself to the corner seat farthest from the window.

  For five minutes I had enjoyed the sensation of someone looking up to and admiring me. Bunce had respected me. Believed in me. Trusted me. Now the little puppy would see that the rest of the school treated me as if I was no one. Just another tiresome squit. I sat in my new seat, trying to look unconcerned and stared down at my bare knees and the grazes and indentations of gravel still there from a bicycle fall. Only yesterday afternoon I had been riding along the lanes listening to skylarks high in the huge Norfolk skies and watching partridges tread stubble in the fields. Three weeks ago I had had my eighth birthday party and been taken to see The Great Race at the Gaumont in Norwich.

  Mason settled himself into his conquered seat and looked across at Bunce with great curiosity and an air of faint repugnance, as if Bunce might be of a breed he had never run into before and hoped never to encounter again.

  “You,” said Mason, kicking across at him. “Have you got a name then?”

  The reply came as something of a shock.

  “I have got a name,” said Bunce, rising, “but it’s none of your bloody business.”

  Mason looked stupefied. There was nothing in the least bad about him. In taking my seat and remarking on my smell he had meant no particular insult, he was merely exercising the natural privilege of seniority. Seniority is payback time. He had been treated like a worm when he was small, now it was his turn to treat those under him like worms. He was ten, for heaven’s sake. He was allowed to wear long trousers. At prep school, ten is to eight what forty is to twenty in adult life.

  “I’m going over there,” said Bunce, pointing to the seat next to mine. “It smells better over there.” He threw himself down beside me with a determined bounce on the springs and then ruined everything by bursting into tears.

  Mason was denied the chance of any response to this astonishing eruption by the entrance into the compartment of Kaloutsis and his parents. It was not at all done for Family to board the train, but Kaloutsis was Greek and his parents serenely above the finer points of English protocol.

  “Ah, and here’s a little one,” cried Mrs. Kaloutsis, swooping down on Bunce. “And no one looking after you?”

  “T
hank you,” Bunce snivelled, “but Fry S. J. is looking after me very well indeed. Very well. Very well indeed. I had a smut in my eye and he lent me his handkerchief.”

  Train boys were generally the sons of military or colonial parents, and had flown in to London Airport to be picked up by uncles, aunts or godparents who would take them on to Paddington. Most other boys at Stouts Hill were driven to school by their parents.

  The reserved compartments filled up over the next quarter-hour with deeply tanned boys returning from hot weeks in places like Northern Rhodesia, Nigeria, India, Aden, the West Indies and Ceylon. One boy, Robert Dale, whom I liked, sat opposite me and Bunce and told us about India. Dale’s father edited an English-language newspaper in Bombay and Dale always shouted “Aiee!” when he was in pain. It had amazed me greatly when I first heard him stubbing his toe against the foot of the bed in the dormitory, since I had never imagined that expressions of pain could vary. I had thought “Ouch!” and “Ow!” were the same all over the world. I had suffered a hot and bothered exchange in my first French lesson, for example, when I was told that the French for “Oh!” was “Ah!”

  “Then how do they say ‘Oh,’ sir?”

  “They say ‘Ah.’ ”

  “Well then, how do they say ‘Ah’?”

  “Don’t be stupid, Fry.”

  I had sulked for the rest of the lesson.

  Dale took off his shoes and socks and leaned back. He had the most splendidly fine feet, with a perfect, even spread of toes. At the beginning of every autumn term boys like him who spent their school holidays in Africa, Asia or the West Indies would show off by running across gravel barefoot without any pain. By the end of the term, with winter set in, their feet would have lost their natural tough layers of callused skin and they would be just the same as the rest of us.

  A guard looked in and performed a brief headcount. He gazed into the middle distance and told us that the last boy who had rested his foot on a seat had been arrested by the police at Didcot and put in prison, where he still languished on a diet of bread and water.