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Mrs. Robinson's Disgrace: The Private Diary of a Victorian Lady

Kate Summerscale




  Mrs. Robinson’s Disgrace

  The Private Diary of a Victorian Lady

  In France in the late 1850s, Gustave Flaubert was prosecuted for corrupting public morals with Madame Bovary – a novel considered ‘too repulsive’ for publication in Britain. In England, the 1857 Matrimonial Causes Act made divorce for the first time a civil matter, affordable to the middle classes. And the godless ideas Charles Darwin was formulating about natural selection, published to accusations of heresy in 1859, would further undermine the religious and moral tenets of Victorian England.

  The story of Isabella Robinson’s fall from grace unfolds against this backdrop of dangerously shifting social mores, in which cherished ideas about marriage and female sexuality were coming increasingly under threat. For a society dealing with such radical notions by clinging ever more tightly to its traditional values, Mrs Robinson’s diary and the lawless ideas about love expressed in it were nothing short of scandal.

  A compelling story of romance and fidelity, insanity, fantasy and the boundaries of privacy, Mrs Robinson’s Disgrace brings brilliantly to life a complex, frustrated Victorian wife, longing for passion and learning, companionship and love in an unsettled world which – as yet – made no allowance for her.

  In memory of my grandmothers, Nelle and Doris,

  and my great-aunt Phyllis

  The wife sat thoughtfully turning over

  A book inscribed with the school-girl’s name;

  A tear – one tear – fell hot on the cover

  She quickly closed when her husband came.

  He came, and he went away – it was nothing –

  With cold calm words on either side;

  But, just at the sound of the room-door shutting,

  A dreadful door in her soul stood wide.

  Love, she had read of in sweet romances, –

  Love that could sorrow, but never fail,

  Built her own palace of noble fancies,

  All the wide world a fairy tale.

  Bleak and bitter, utterly doleful,

  Spreads to this woman her map of life;

  Hour after hour she looks in her soul, full

  Of deep dismay and turbulent strife.

  Face in both hands, she knelt on the carpet;

  The black cloud loosen’d, the storm-rain fell:

  Oh! Life has so much to wilder and warp it, –

  One poor heart’s day what poet could tell?

  ‘A Wife’ by ‘A’ [William Allingham],

  in Once a Week, 7 January 1860

  Contents

  Prologue

  BOOK I: THIS SECRET FRIEND

  1 HERE I MAY GAZE AND DREAM

  2 POOR DEAR DODDY

  3 THE SILENT SPIDER

  4 MY IMAGINATION HEATED AS THOUGH WITH REALITIES

  5 AND I KNEW THAT I WAS WATCHED

  6 THE FUTURE HORRIBLE

  BOOK II: OUT FLEW THE WEB

  7 IMPURE PROCEEDINGS

  8 I HAVE LOST EVERY THING

  9 BURN THAT BOOK, AND BE HAPPY!

  10 AN INSANE TENDERNESS

  11 A GREAT DITCH OF POISON

  12 THE VERDICT

  13 IN DREAMS THAT CANNOT BE LAID

  CODA: DO YOU ALSO PAUSE TO PITY?

  ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

  FAMILY TREES

  LIST OF LAWYERS IN THE ROBINSON DIVORCE TRIAL

  SELECT BIBLIOGRAPHY

  NOTES

  A NOTE ON THE AUTHOR

  BY THE SAME AUTHOR

  Prologue

  In London in the summer of 1858, a court of law began to grant divorces to the English middle classes. Until then, a marriage could be dissolved only by an individual Act of Parliament, at a cost prohibitive to almost all of the population. The new Court of Divorce and Matrimonial Causes was able to sever the marital bond far more cheaply and quickly. To win a divorce was still difficult – a man had to prove that his wife had committed adultery, a woman that her husband was guilty of two matrimonial offences – but the petitioners came in their hundreds, bringing their stories of betrayal and strife, of brutish men and, especially, of wanton women.

  The judges were presented with a singular case on Monday 14 June, a month after they had heard their first divorce suit. Henry Oliver Robinson, a civil engineer, was petitioning for the dissolution of his marriage on the grounds that his wife, Isabella, had committed adultery, and he submitted as evidence a diary in her hand. Over the five days of the trial, thousands of Isabella Robinson’s secret words were read out to the court, and the newspapers printed almost every one. Her journal was detailed, sensual, alternately anguished and euphoric, more godless and abandoned than anything in contemporary English fiction. In spirit, it resembled Gustave Flaubert’s Madame Bovary, which had been published in France in 1857 after a notorious obscenity trial, but was considered too scandalous to be translated into English until the 1880s. The diary, like Flaubert’s novel, portrayed a new and disturbing figure: a middle-class wife who was restless, unhappy, avid for arousal. To the astonishment of those who read the extracts in the press, Mrs Robinson seemed to have invited, and lovingly documented, her own disgrace.

  BOOK I

  THIS SECRET FRIEND

  ‘Why have I gone back to this secret friend of my wretchedest and wickedest hours? Because I am more friendless than ever; because I am more lonely than ever, though my husband is sitting writing in the next room to me. My misery is a woman’s misery, and it will speak – here, rather than nowhere; to my second self, in this book, if I have no one else to hear me’

  From Wilkie Collins’s Armadale (1866)

  1

  HERE I MAY GAZE AND DREAM

  Edinburgh, 1850–52

  In the evening of 15 November 1850, a mild Friday night, Isabella Robinson set out for a party near her house in Edinburgh. Her carriage bumped across the wide cobbled avenues of the Georgian New Town and drew up in a circle of grand sandstone houses lit by street lamps. She descended from the cab and mounted the steps to 8 Royal Circus, its huge door glowing with brass and topped with a bright rectangle of glass. This was the residence of Lady Drysdale, a rich and well-connected widow to whom Isabella and her husband had been commended when they moved to Edinburgh that autumn.

  Elizabeth Drysdale was a renowned hostess, vivacious, generous and strong-willed, and her soirées attracted inventive, progressive types: novelists such as Charles Dickens, who had attended one of the Drysdales’ parties in 1841; physicians such as the obstetrician and pioneer anaesthetist James Young Simpson; publishers such as Robert Chambers, the founder of Chambers’s Edinburgh Journal; and a crowd of artists, essayists, naturalists, antiquaries and actresses. Though Edinburgh was past its glory days as the hub of the Scottish Enlightenment, it still boasted an energetic intellectual and social scene.

  A servant let Isabella in to the building. Within the hallway, gas flamed in a chandelier, throwing its light on to the stone floor and the polished iron and wood of the banister bending up the staircase. The guests took off their outdoor clothes – bonnets, muffs and mantles, top hats and coats – and proceeded up the stairs. The ladies wore low-cut dresses of glinting silk and satin, with smooth bodices pulled tight over lined, boned corsets. Their skirts were lifted on petticoats, layered with flounces, trimmed with ribbons and ruffles and braid. Their hair was parted in the centre and drawn back over the ears into coiled buns sprigged with feathers or lace. They wore jewels at their throats and wrists, silk boots or satin slippers on their feet. The gentlemen followed them in tailcoats, waistcoats, neckties and pleated shirt fronts, narrow trousers and shining shoes.r />
  Isabella came to the party eager for company. Her husband, Henry, was often away on business, and even when he was home she felt lonely. He was an ‘uncongenial partner’, she wrote in her diary: ‘uneducated, narrow-minded, harsh-tempered, selfish, proud’. While she yearned to talk about literature and politics, to write poetry, learn languages and read the latest essays on science and philosophy, he was ‘a man who had only a commercial life’.

  In the high, airy reception rooms on the first floor, Isabella was introduced to Lady Drysdale and to the young couple who shared her house: her daughter Mary and her son-in-law Edward Lane. The twenty-seven-year-old Mr Lane was a lawyer, born in Canada and educated in Edinburgh, who was now training for a new career in medicine. Isabella was enchanted by him. He was ‘handsome, lively and good-humoured’, she told her diary; he was ‘fascinating’. She chastised herself later, as she had done many times before, for being so susceptible to a man’s charms. But a wish had taken hold of her, and she was to find it hard to shake.

  In the same month that she met Edward Lane, Isabella took a trip to the North Sea coast and sat on the beach meditating on her many flaws. A well-born Englishwoman of thirty-seven, she had, by her own account, already failed in every role that a Victorian lady was expected to fulfil. She listed her deficiencies in her diary: ‘my errors of youth, my provocations to my brothers and my sisters, my headstrong conduct to my governess, my disobedience and want of duty to my parents, my want of steady principle in life, the mode of my marriage and my conduct during that marriage, my partial and often violent conduct to my children, my giddy behaviour as a widow, my second marriage and all that had followed it’. She had been guilty, she said, of ‘impatience under trials, wandering affections, want of self-denial and resolute persistence in well-doing; as a parent, as a daughter, as a sister, as a wife, as a pupil, as a friend, as a mistress’.

  She then quoted a verse by Robert Burns:

  Thou know’st that thou has made me

  With passions wild and strong;

  And listening to their witching voice

  Has often led me wrong.

  Some of Isabella’s ruthless catalogue of her faults can be mapped on to the recorded facts of her life. She was born in Bloomsbury, London, on 27 February 1813, and christened Isabella Hamilton Walker at St Pancras Church that May. Her father, Charles, was the second son of a former Accountant General to George III; her mother, Bridget, was the eldest daughter of a Cumbrian coal-mining heiress and a Whig MP. When Isabella was a baby her father bought an estate in the Shropshire village of Ashford Carbonel, near the English border with Wales. It was there, in a red-brick manor house by the River Teme, that she grew up, defying her elders and annoying her siblings.

  Isabella’s mother later portrayed their home, Ashford Court, as an idyll for children: there was ‘a large pretty Garden’, she told a grandchild, ‘plenty of green Fields & pleasant walks & a long River, & a Boat upon it’, as well as ‘young Lambs & Cows & Sheep & big Horses, & little Horses; & Dogs & Cats & Kittens’. The house was set in 230 acres of meadows, pastures, paddocks, hop fields and orchards. A lawn sloped down to the banks of the river, with a view of hills crested with trees. Isabella’s father, the local squire and a Justice of the Peace, owned all of the land in the village, and he gradually bought and leased further acres, of which he farmed a hundred and rented out the rest.

  Isabella and her seven siblings were looked after by a nurse and then by a governess, in whose care the four sisters remained while the four brothers were sent away to boarding school. A governess typically taught modern languages, arithmetic and literature to her charges, but her main task was to turn out accomplished young ladies, proficient in dancing, piano-playing, singing and drawing. Isabella, the eldest of the girls, felt limited by this training. From her earliest years, she later recalled, she was ‘an independent & constant thinker’.

  In August 1837, a few weeks after Queen Victoria’s accession to the British throne, Isabella became the first of the Walker girls to marry. The ceremony took place in St Mary’s Church, half a mile up the hill from her house. Isabella was twenty-four and her bridegroom, Edward Collins Dansey, was a widowed Royal Navy lieutenant of forty-three. Her disparaging reference to the ‘mode’ of her marriage suggested that it was not a love match; she later said that she had married on impulse, propelled by ‘headstrong passion’. It was none the less a mutually advantageous union. Edward Dansey was from an ancient local family, the former lords of the manor in which Isabella’s father had purchased his estate. He brought £6,000 to the marriage, which Isabella almost matched with £5,000 settled upon her by her father. This capital would have yielded a comfortable income of about £900 a year.

  After their wedding the couple moved to the nearby market town of Ludlow, where Isabella gave birth to a son, Alfred Hamilton Dansey, in February 1841. Early in the nineteenth century, Ludlow ‘had balls in the assembly rooms’, Henry James reported. ‘It had Mrs Siddons to plays; it had Catalini to sing. Miss Burney’s and Miss Austen’s heroines might easily have had their first love affairs there.’ The Danseys’ house – built in 1625 and re-fronted with eight Venetian windows in the mid-eighteenth century – was next to a ballroom in Broad Street, a picturesque road that careered down to the River Teme. Isabella and her new family were installed at the heart of Shropshire society.

  In December 1841, though, Edward Dansey suddenly went mad. Isabella’s mother told a relative that ‘Poor Mr Dansey’ had become ‘perfectly deranged’ and ‘required constant restraint & incessant vigilance’. She reported that Isabella’s eighteen-year-old brother Frederick had gone to stay in the Danseys’ house in Ludlow ‘in order to attend to the poor sufferer & to console his sister under this most painful of all trials’. Five months later Dansey died of ‘a diseased brain’, aged forty-seven.

  Edward Dansey had already settled money on Alfred, but everything he owned upon his death passed to his son by his first marriage, Celestin, a young lieutenant with the Royal Bombay Fusiliers. Isabella inherited nothing. She probably returned with her baby to Ashford Court.

  Isabella lived as a widow for two years before she was introduced to Henry Oliver Robinson, an Irish Protestant six years her senior. The couple may have met through Henry’s sister Sarah, whose husband was a solicitor and alderman in Hereford, twenty miles south of Ludlow. Henry came from a family of itinerant and entrepreneurial manufacturers. As a young man in Londonderry, the city of his birth, he had run a brewery and distillery that produced 8,000 gallons of spirits a year, and he was now in business building boats and sugar mills with a brother in London. Henry had since 1841 been an associate of the Institute of Civil Engineers, a body that regulated a relatively new, fast-growing profession; by 1850, there were about 900 engineers in Britain.

  Isabella twice refused Henry’s proposals of marriage, but when he asked for a third time she accepted: ‘I suffered my scruples & dislike to be talked away by others,’ she later explained in a letter, ‘& with my eyes almost open I walked into the bonds of a dreaded wedlock like one fated.’ As a thirty-one-year-old widow with a child, she was not in a position to be picky. This marriage would at least offer her the chance to travel beyond the bounds of her corner of the country, to see new places and meet new people.

  After a wedding in Hereford on 29 February 1844, Henry and Isabella moved to London, where their first child, Charles Otway, was born in a house in Camden Town just under a year later. He was christened Charles after Isabella’s father, but there seems to have been no precedent for the name Otway in either of his parents’ families. Isabella may have chosen it in tribute to the popular Restoration dramatist Thomas Otway, who wrote plays – dubbed ‘she-tragedies’ – about virtuous and afflicted ladies. Her pet name for this second and favourite son was Doatie, and she doted upon him.

  Soon after Otway’s birth the family moved to Blackheath Park, an expensive new estate just outside London. Their house was two miles south of Greenwich, from which a ferry
regularly made the crossing to the Robinson iron works on the north bank of the Thames. Henry and his brother Albert designed and built steam-powered ships and sugar-cane mills at Millwall, amid the scrub and marsh lining the river east of the city. They turned out sheet metal, engines and parts in their manufactory, and employed several hundred men to construct boats and mills on site. In one project, which brought in £100,000, Albert designed five craft for the River Ganges, which were built and dismantled at Millwall, shipped to Calcutta (a four-month journey), and reassembled there under his supervision. In 1848 the Robinson brothers bought the iron yard for just £12,000 (it had been purchased for £50,000 more than a decade earlier). Their younger brother Richard joined the business, as did the pioneering naval architect and engineer John Scott Russell. The company, now known as Robinson & Russell, launched a dozen sea-going ships over the next three years, the first of them the Taman, an iron packet commissioned by the Russian government to ply the Black Sea from Odessa to Circassia. On the day of the Taman’s launch in November 1848, a large crowd gathered, many in steamboats and rowing boats, to watch the ship edge down the ramp, slowly at first, and then with a final, fast swoop into the river.

  Henry’s marriage to Isabella had secured him money as well as status. Just before their wedding, Isabella’s father had settled £5,000 upon her ‘for her sole and separate use’, as he had done on her first marriage; this was a common means of circumventing the law that gave a man rights over all his wife’s property. The interest from this fund – about £430 a year – was paid by the trustees (her father and her brother Frederick) into an account in her name at the banking house of Gosling & Co. in Fleet Street, London. Almost immediately after the marriage, though, Henry suggested that Isabella sign all her cheques and hand them over to him; he would then cash them as he saw fit, to pay for their domestic and personal expenses. Isabella assented. Henry was ‘a person of very imperious temper’, she explained later, and ‘to prevent as far as possible any difference from arising’ between them, she was willing to let him have his way. Henry gave Isabella cash to pay the tradesmen’s bills and the wages of their female servants, as well as to buy household goods and clothes for herself and the children. He supplied her with some pocket money, and instructed her on how to keep accounts. The Robinson family’s expenditure was about £1,000 a year, which placed it in the richest one per cent of the population and in the higher echelons of the upper middle classes.